Why do people come?
People come to therapy for many different reasons, perhaps because they are in some kind of distress, perhaps because their life lacks meaning, perhaps because they have experienced loss or trauma, perhaps because they feel really angry or upset and they don't understand why.
Understanding ourselves better
How we manage life events can be influenced by things that have happened to us in the past. Counselling and therapy aim to help with understanding these links. Once we understand where difficult feelings are coming from we begin to be able to make healthier choices about how we want to live our lives and how we respond to what is happening in the present.
Having our feelings heard
In order for us to feel safe enough to express painful or difficult feelings, we need to know that we, and our feelings, will be accepted, without blame or judgement.
A therapist is there to take your feelings seriously and to help you do the same.
When our feelings have been dismissed or ignored we get very good at hiding them and sometimes we can even pretend to ourselves that they're not there. This can be a very useful coping strategy to help get through difficult times but it doesn't work in the long term.
Keeping a lid on difficult feelings uses up a lot of energy. Once we can find a safe place to explore and express these feelings, energy is freed up and becomes available to allow us to live fuller and more rewarding lives.